What you say is most certainly true. Especially in my "older" generation. And I too, know of people that have had that happen to them. My problem with that scene from a viewer standpoint is that we already knew that Rhi and her husband knew about Ianto. Of course, Gwen and Andy were not privy to that conversation. My biggest problem with the scene is after that was said what were we as the viewer going to expect? That Gwen and Andy would go in and give the news that Ianto was dead, and then add by the way, he was gay. I didnt see that happening, and it didn't. Also, all these remarks were aimed at Ianto in COE, and nothing ever said about Jack's sexuality. I just found it interesting and strange.