Deal Breakers

[ericadawn16]

We, as a society, really need to stop pressuring people to have significant others at all costs. Yes, relationships take work and we should deal with the other's differences with a mature outlook if the relationship is to survive BUT there are certain flaws that SHOULD be deal-breakers. They should NOT be tolerated and we should be supporting anyone walking away from this situation.

Deal-breakers that we should all agree on:

*They are a current gang member.
*They deal drugs.
*They regularly use drugs harder than marijuana.
*The majority of their free time is spent drinking and/or doing drugs.
*They show verbal and/or physical abuse to animals and children.
*They demand to know your whereabouts 24/7.
*They find a way to make you pay for everything.
*They constantly want you to do things you're not comfortable with.
*They refuse to practice safe sex.
*They have three or more children, all with different baby mamas/daddies.
*They commit crimes that could lead to JAIL for YOU!

Comments

[captaintish]

Everything I need to know I learned from The People's Court. That show is education, yo.

[ragnarok-08.livejournal.com]

I can agree on that.

[indiwise.livejournal.com]

RIGHT ON.

[iibnf.livejournal.com]

They physically abuse their partner
They steal from their partner
They lie about their finances to hide gambling/addiction issues
They're a nazi (I had that), Phelps believer, KKK member, or some other racist/homophobic group
They hate fat people

I have to admit, I'm largely intolerant of people, so I'd also put down cheaters, people who touch my stuff, people who are overly helpful, anyone who touches my computer, anyone who talks too much, people who try to touch me, people who expect me to cook or clean for them, people who don't wash/have poor hygiene, and religious people.

Forever alone. Forever not having to clean up some god fearing racists filthy underpants.

[gonzo21.livejournal.com]

Being a liar is the one big thing on my list these days.

[hermione-vader.livejournal.com]

I think dumping a cheater is perfectly reasonable, actually.

[rinygrin.livejournal.com]

After my first relationship (and running into bizarre people who wanted to date/hook up) I've had a better understanding of my own limits. Great list!

[iibnf.livejournal.com]

So do I, and yet so many people 'forgive' a cheating partner. If by 'forgive' you read 'spend the next five years minimum torturing them at every possible opportunity'.

[i-llbedammned.livejournal.com]

On the abuse thing: Usually they don't start showing that until the person is dependent upon them in some way. It makes it harder to leave then.

But yeah, all of these are deal breakers for me. I try to convince my friends to part from people who do these things to them. The paying one is particularly an issue I have to tackle with my guy friends because they don't see when they are being used.